Have you had times where you were in conversation with another only to realize you had only heard half of what they said… if that?  Often we are not hearing the other because we are busy thinking about what we are going to say next.  There is a tool that you can use to become […]

So here I am, along with many other single men and women, looking for that person that will be a good fit. Often, we may find ourselves caught up in the looks, charm, and excitement of an individual; but is that what you are really looking for? If you are serious about finding that good […]

As I approach my 59th birthday I am surprised to experience myself so at peace about it.  The initial empty nest experience of my early fifties left me evaluating my life and all of my past decisions, working through more regrets then I cared to. However, I find my later fifties gives me a feeling […]

To my horror, I once caught myself using the phrase “they Jewed me out of it.” I was shocked by my own words, and wondered how could someone who has always prided themselves for being fair and open-minded say something so overtly prejudiced and wrong-headed? This thought connected to Jewish people being able to squeeze a dime out […]

Depression is more of a problem amongst men than we realize.  Depression in men is generally under diagnosed because most men are compelled to escape the vulnerable feelings that come with this sad and hopeless emotional state.  This leads them to act out through substance abuse, withdrawing, having affairs, overworking, and/or aggressively acting out against […]

Married To The Enemy is about the reality of how our culture divides the two sexes by arbitrarily assigning extraneous gender traits that ends up leaving many men and women not knowing their authentic selves and not knowing how to relate to the other.  This gender filter can create a human disconnect that is so detrimental […]

My book Married To The Enemy: A Guide to Overcoming the Obstacles to Intimacy When We Are Raised in a Culture that Uses Sexism and Stereotyping to Divide Us by Dawn K Kozarian and Mark James, is now available.  This book has been years in the making.  In some ways I believe I started writing it […]

Welcome to my Indianapolis blog.  In this blog I will be writing about various mental health topics and would enjoy hearing your comments on expressed topics.  I moved to Indianapolis in 1988 and at that time I would say it met its’ reputation of being a very large small town.  However, over the years I […]