Relationships Moving in the Right Direction

So there I am standing in the hair products aisle at the store and I hear this tall rather stocky built African American man talking on his cell phone.  It turns out that he is looking at twenty different curling irons and his conversation goes something like this:  “Hi honey, I’m here looking at the curling irons […]

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Relationships: Soul Mates

I have seen several in my time. What I have observed about soul mates is that there is a palpable energy in the room when in the presence of that deeper committed connection between two people. This does not mean that the soul mate couple has an easy time of it. It does not mean […]

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Divorce, Dating, and PTSD

In following up with the last blog, I would like to add another factor that may well be involved with what is behind a lack of effort problem. What often goes unacknowledged is the trauma that can come with a divorce or a break-up. Trauma is an event or situation that causes great distress and […]

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Effort and Love

The other day I had a male friend talk with me about what he thought love may be, based on his observation of a certain couple we both know. He described this couple as reminding him of being like one would be with an old comfortable sweatshirt. They were relaxed, at ease, with each other. […]

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Blame No One

What a concept! Blame no one… but take responsibility for what has been created around you. This idea is very counter to what seems like a knee jerk reaction when things go wrong in our life. I recently have reaped great rewards from such a concept. Someone I was dating had abruptly broken up with […]

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Being Whole

The other day I heard a minister state; Holiness is connected to Wholeness… the more whole one is the more holy they become. A fundamental teaching of the Bahá’í Faith is that men and women are equal. They teach that the achievement of the equality of the sexes is paramount to the unification of the […]

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Further Thoughts on Anger

The last time I wrote was a week before the Sandy Hook Connecticut massacre. That horrific tragedy got the best of me and I just found myself not able to blog. My feelings with the massacre were many… outraged, angry, horrified, grief stricken, helpless, deeply empathetic, numb. In my last blog I wrote about anger […]

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ANGER… The Misunderstood Emotion

Did you know that “anger” is considered one of nine adaptable emotions that help us survive? Anger, at its’ best is meant to assist in preserving our self. Without anger we would not stop the intruder who is about to hurt us or stop the relative that is verbally abusing our character. Anger is what […]

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Giving Thanks

Thanksgiving has left me full of gratitude… for my children, a new friend and his family, old friends, extended family, work colleagues, how abundantly my basic needs are met. With this appreciative feeling is a sincere desire to give something back. It’s a gratefulness that inspires a sense of obligation. Not a burdensome externally imposed […]

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What did you say?

Have you had times where you were in conversation with another only to realize you had only heard half of what they said… if that?  Often we are not hearing the other because we are busy thinking about what we are going to say next.  There is a tool that you can use to become […]

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